Sometimes I ponder the questions people ask. They seem rude sometimes and other times they are very personal, yet time and time again, the same questions are asked across the country. For example: when a couple is having a hard time trying to conceive. There are acquaintances in the couple's life that will ask questions about the process. I can't imagine how these couples feel. I would not be comfortable talking about my sex life or my monthly schedule. Yes, there are friends you will discuss this with, but your old neighbor that you run into at the grocery store should not be asking you questions in front of the oatmeal.
For me, it's a housing issue. Whenever I meet new people or even when work people shift to personal talk, I typically get 2 questions. The first question is do you rent or own? Why is that your concern? Why does anyone need to know what my debt is? Will it change their opinion of me? Does renting rather than owning give off some sort of vibe or qualification as a person? No one would EVER ask a married couple if they rent or own. I think it would be considered rude, but for a single woman (and maybe man, I don't know), it is consider a valid question.
After I say, yes, I own my house. The next question is 'Do you cut your grass?' What kind of question is that? Am I less of a person because I cut my grass? Are you determining my level of friendship with you based on my yard work skills? I would NEVER ask a singly guy, 'so do you do your own laundry?' I realize their intentions are harmless, so I am not getting into a fury over this, but when you sit down and analyze the question, it is really quite rude.
My question to you (because everyone has them): What is a question you are asked on a regular basis that you consider a little off-putting? AND does anyone have any clever remark I can respond with when I am asked if I cut my grass?
5 comments to Passive Aggressive Rudeness:
I was not being passively-aggressively rude in my post. I have not witnessed any sort of inappropriate questions in the past 24 hours or even week (except for the questions posed to me). I only brought up the conceiving topic because I have heard that complaint for many years and I thought many could relate.
Any reference to a true event or person was merely coincidental.
Sometimes I think it depends on the person. Some people are much more open than others. Some people may be asking the question about owning because maybe they are looking to own and they are also a strong single female and possibly need advice from a fellow owner who has some experience. The grass cutting thing may be because they are looking for someone to cut their grass too? You know I don't understand what motivates people half of the time but I do think that some people have the best of intentions when asking questions which make you feel uncomfortable. In which case, just tell them, "Hey! That's none of your dang business."
Abbey
you could say yes i cut my grass with a scissors becaue i do not like dependency on oil!!! It takes me about 10 hourse however my back and legs are super duper strong because I stay hunched over for 10 hours. And sometimes when I do not feel like cutting the grass for 10 hours I let my fainting goats out and I let them at it. Just rember when I let my goats out do not scare them becaue they will faint. (there are such things as fainting goats)
That's it Bern.
'No, I don't let cut my grass, that's what the goats are for."
Okay, so I'm SURE I never asked you if you cut your own grass & I'm pretty sure I never asked if you own or rent, but I have no idea anymore!
I HATE it when people ask how much purchases cost... not like friends asking how much I got a shirt they like for, but like we just bought a new stroller. It's a really nice one that people are aware costs a little more than usual. So that makes it their business to ask how much!!??? Or anything like that. Some people just think anything is their business.
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